Start Talking - a book for Teens and Moms
In my day there was one book that every girl read called "Growing up and Liking it". With anatomical drawings that were hard to understand and the biologic facts about your body "changing", it didn't create much of a discussion platform. It also didn't deal with any of the real issues young girls want to hear about. Boring! Rapini and Sherman have exponentially raised the bar with "Start Talking".
"Start Talking" offers straight and complete answers about how your body works, feeling good and feeling fat, birth control, STD and what makes you a virgin. They are frank about sex and why waiting is a good choice. There is a strong focus on helping girls feel good about their bodies. Each chapter is a different topic and has "mom questions", "daughter questions" and "conversations starters". What does a mom do when she finds out her daughter is having sex at age 16? It may sound young but 40% of girls have had sex by age 16 and over half by age 17. What if your daughter is bulimic or is being bullied? These real life problems are addressed in "Start Talking".
What I like about this book is the easy layout and the provocative Q&A that moms and daughters can read together. It stimulates a conversation that can start in the pre-teen years and advance as a girl matures. The book is medically correct in it's descriptions and advice and non-judgemental in tone. Isn't that the type of open dialog we all seek to have with our children?
If you have a pre-teen or know someone who does, pick up "Start Talking" and start creating open conversations with your daughter as she matures. Studies show that teens may act like you are not part of their world, but what they really want is to talk and to have you try and understand them. This book is a good place to start.